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Finding Light in the Darkness: Janice Delima Tentler’s Path to Healing

Finding Light in the Darkness: Janice Delima Tentler's Path to Healing
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Loving justice and acting justly means refusing to tolerate abuse, exposing it (Ephesians 5:11-13) and stopping it.  

“He shall cover you with His feathers, and under His wings, you shall take refuge; His truth shall be your shield and buckler. You shall not be afraid of the terror by night, nor the arrow that flies by day, nor the pestilence that walk in the darkness, nor the destruction that lays waste at noonday.” —Psalm 91:4-6. 

In the labyrinth of life, where light and shadow intermingle, Janice Israel Delima Tentler found herself ensnared in a relationship that epitomized the very essence of darkness. Her story is not just a narrative; it’s a testament to the resilience of the human spirit against the covert and insidious murder of one’s psyche. 

Janice’s journey began with promise and love, anchored in devout Christian faith. Married for nearly a decade to her husband, their union was blessed with three children and an active involvement in their church community. Yet, beneath this veneer of familial bliss and spiritual devotion lurked a harrowing reality. 

Her husband, wielding his interpretation of religious texts as weapons, justified behaviors that were anything but Christ-like. He demanded absolute submission from Janice, silencing her voice and erasing her identity bit by bit. Any deviation from his expectations or any hint of autonomy on her part was met with fury. Despite witnessing these outbursts, their relatives dismissed them as disciplinary actions necessary for maintaining order within the household. 

“The Spirit of the Lord is upon me because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed” (Luke 4:18-19). This verse resonated deeply with Janice during her darkest hours. It served as a beacon of hope and a reminder that liberation from oppression was not only possible but divinely ordained. 

Narcissistic abuse encapsulated her marriage—a type characterized by emotional manipulation aimed at controlling one’s partner through a cycle of idealization, devaluation, and rejection. Dr. Dow highlights how narcissists oscillate between appearing supportive and being cruelly manipulative, using language and behavior designed to alter or control their partner’s actions. 

Janice’s initial encounter with her future husband was deceivingly idyllic. Charmed by his attentiveness and seemingly shared values, she quickly fell into a whirlwind romance marked by ‘love bombing.’ However, this facade crumbled soon after they married. The attentive man she thought she knew transformed into someone distant, cold, and cruel. 

The turning point came when Janice realized her reality had been meticulously dismantled by someone who professed love yet harbored no empathy—someone who revealed in seeing her diminished rather than empowered. She recognized this pattern too late; she was entangled in a vicious cycle designed to erode her sense of self-worth gradually. 

Janice endured psychological violence that spanned verbal attacks to more insidious forms like gaslighting—making her doubt her sanity—and sleep deprivation—a tactic used to weaken one mentally and physically. These strategies were calculated moves by an emotional predator skilled in manipulation. 

Despite recognizing red flags early on, Janice found herself unable to leave due to what psychologists call ‘trauma bonding’—an intense attachment formed from alternating abusive behavior with kindness. Additionally, societal pressures often painted a picture-perfect image of their marriage externally while hiding the turmoil within. 

Recovery from such profound abuse is arduous but imperative for reclaiming one’s sense of self-worth and peace. For Janice Delima Tentler, healing began with acknowledging the abuse she suffered, followed by engaging in activities that nurtured both body and mind—a crucial step towards rebuilding what had been unjustly taken from her. 

Through sharing her story on platforms like www.alegredepilipinas.net and social media channels such as Facebook (www.facebook.com/JanzMomof3?mibextid=LQQJ4d), Janice aims not only to heal but also to enlighten others about narcissistic abuse’s covert nature. In doing so, she hopes to empower those trapped in similar situations to seek freedom—to live once again under “the year of the Lord’s favor” (Luke 4:18-19). 

Isaiah 53:5 poignantly states: “But He was wounded for our transgressions; He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him And by His stripes we are healed.” For Janice Delima Tentler—and many others enduring unseen battles—this passage offers solace and strength amid suffering; it reaffirms that even in darkness, there exists hope for healing and renewal.

Finding Light in the Darkness: Janice Delima Tentler's Path to Healing



Published By: Aize Perez

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